Anonymous asked: I desperately need my boyfriend to be more dominant...... he refuses to do anything but vanilla sex even though he's said he likes things like collars, leashes, and tying me up. We have all those things but they never get used. What do i do?
Start slowly and try to show him how much you enjoy it every time he does something that you crave for. You can find some more of my thoughts through my links page, among them some thoughts on “How do I get my husband to be my Dom?” If you have further questions, come off anon and tell me more on your situation.
and you will enjoy both of it immensely.
There’s so much more to enjoy than “just” sex.
Anonymous asked: I want to be beaten until I'm bleeding, and crying, and there is nothing left of me but feeling that pain and hopefully the eventual release that comes with getting what I need. And I'm struggling to make that sound okay in my head, and I'm scared of what wanting that makes me.
It makes you a masochist and since I’m not a sadist, I cannot really comment on that. It is not what I do and I don’t have experience with it. I never made anybody bleed in my 20+ years as a Dom so you’ll need to ask someone else on what that might give you.